5 things to do when you are stressed
I used to be, and really still am a very stressful and anxious person. I can’t even count the amount of nights I have lost countless hours of sleep over, just lying awake stressing over everything and anything. Even as a kid, I would be a rather stressful child. I would be the one worrying about when things were going to get done and how we were going to do them. Instead. Fast forward to adult years and nothing changed, in fact it became more intensified.
It wasn’t until this past year did I realize that I needed to learn how to seriously stress less. I needed to learn how to ease my mind and calm myself because the anxiousness and stress I was feeling was not helping me in the slightest. Although I am still learning, there have been things that I have began to do when I am feeling really overly stressed. Sometimes I get so caught up with life that I don’t even realize how stressed I am until I am bursting into tears over how tense I feel. I have started to try to really pay attention to my body and my stress/anxiety level. I have began to do certain things and “techniques”, if you will, that have helped me calm down and stay “in the moment” a little more.
Here are just a few things that have helped me a ton!
Steps for stressing less:
1. Write down stressors.
I know this may sound a little silly but I like to journal in generally and lately I have started to write down things that are “stressors” or possible triggers to my stress and anxiety that I may be feeling. In doing this, I can look at these issues and think about how I could change them and what the plan can be so that I can be less stressed about them. For example, the other night I was feeling particularly stressed about needing to make a decision about something. So I wrote down how I was feeling about it and how I can come to a decision so I can stop spending all of my time thinking about it.
2. Take time to do something you love/enjoy:
Taking time for yourself to do something you really find joy in is a HUGE help in reducing stress you may be feeling. Even if this is only a temporary solution, you would not believe how much better you would feel if you just took a couple hours to do something you enjoy and love to do. Even if it is just watching your favorite TV shows, like me or jamming out to some good music. Doing something that makes you happy can be an instant stress reliever. I personally love having a couple hours in the morning to just listen to some youtube channels I enjoy or putting on a show on netlflix or listening some good music. After I have just that little time to myself I feel like my mind is a little bit more calm and I am ready for the day. I also love to bake delicious treats. I love to do this especially when I am feeling overwhelmed and consumed with my thoughts and stresses. Something about baking takes my stress away, even if it is only for a short time.
3. Take a walk/exercise:
Walking is such a great stress reliever for me. I personally feel a lot better after a go for a little walk or doing some sort of exercise. I’ve talked about this in a past blog post about boosting your mood, but it also helps me to feel less stressed. Even just going on a short walk or doing twenty minutes on the treadmill helps me to just feel just a little more relaxed. It is also a great way to take the time and just reflect on things that you are feeling and thinking. My favorite walking is through the woods or to a river or lake but even when I don’t always have that option and I’m just walking through my neighborhood, it instantly reduces the tension I am feeling.
4. Time manage/say no if needed:
I have always been pretty good at managing my time. I am a punctual person and am usually on time or fairly early to things but the one thing I am not good at is getting things done in a timely manner. I am a really great procrastinator and tend to create unnecessary added stress by not just getting my stuff done that I need to get done. All through college I would push tasks off and of course work would pile up and then I would have a mountain of things to do. I have learned from my bad experiences to create “to do” lists and really put in the effort to get my tasks done on time or before hand.
I also am really bad at saying no to things. I tend to spread myself to thin because I will volunteer or say “yes” to someone if they need help, even if I don’t really have the time to help them. For example, when I was in college I would babysit my nieces even when I had a ton of school work to do. I am still working on this but I have learned that sometimes it is okay to say no. It’s okay if you have other things you need to do and you can’t make everyone happy. Saying “no” when I have other things going on and really just cannot do something, helps with not getting overwhelmed.
5. Take a bath, read a book, RELAX
I am such a bubble bath person, it is one of the very first things I want to do when I am feeling overwhelmed or stressed out. I absolutely LOVE to take about a half hour out of a stressful day to just decompress, relax and enjoy a nice bubble bath. I feel so much better after just taking that little bit of time to enjoy a nice bath with some candles lite and a good book to read. I always feel a little less tense and overwhelmed after I get out of a bath. I usually get a really bad headache when I am severely stressed, and somehow taking a hot bath always helps me find some relieve. So not only does it cure overload stress, it just might help cure a bad headache too!
These are just five things I have started to do to try to minimize the amount of stress I feel sometimes. Sometimes when life gets a little chaotic and overwhelming, our minds and bodies start to feel that stress and tension. I have started to do these things to help to prevent that awful feeling of being overloaded with stress.
Unfortunately stress and feeling overwhelmed is inevitable. It happens and there might not be a way to exactly stop stress from occurring, as it is part of life. However sometimes, we can control just how stressed we get and how tense we start to feel as a result of feeling overwhelmed. Being an anxious and stressful person as it is, I know doing these few things have helped me to just be able to live a little more “in the moment” and allows me to stay in the present day a little more rather than worrying and stressing over what hasn’t happened yet.
I hope these five things help you as much as they have helped me. I would love hearing other suggestions and tips to stressing less! Thanks for reading!