When you feel like you’re not where you thought you would be
I’m 26 and still live at home. This was not my plan in life nor was it something I thought would be an option. Not to sound like I don’t love my parents or don’t enjoy being home. That is not the case at all. I love my parents and do in fact love being home with them. But as we get older we do get that desire to have independence, that desire to be on our own and just try things out for ourselves. It’s just a part of life that is natural to happen.
But here I am, still living at home and still very much financially dependent on my parents. Things don’t always go the way we plan them to go, something I have had to really work on accepting. You can plan and plan and plan but it just doesn’t mean it will go the way you expect it to go. And I am learning that is okay. It is okay that my timeline is a little behind than I wanted it to be. It is okay that I am still living at home. Some of these things I had no control over, I didn’t choose to get sick and be out of work for almost a year. But it happened, and it pushed me back pretty far from my plan and my timeline.
I am not where I thought I would be. By now I thought I would be married or at least engaged and thinking about starting my own family in the very near future. I used to get really down when I allowed myself to think about how “far of track” I am. But lately I have tried to put it in a different perspective and think about it in a more positive way.
Maybe I’m not where I thought I would be. But maybe I’m where I am supposed to be and where I need to be right now. I believe most things happen for a reason. As hard as it is to accept sometimes, I think things fall into place at the time they are meant to. It doesn’t mean that it doesn’t suck sometimes because it absolutely does. But for me, it makes it a little easier when I can just accept that things are the way they are right now and it is just meant to be that way. Of course there are things we can do to put things into place but I’m talking more about when you don’t have much control over the situation.
I am grateful for what I have, the people I have and where I am right now. Do I wish things would have worked out within my plan I wanted? Yes. Do I spend every moment of everyday thinking about it? I used to. But now, I take my situation for what it is and take things day by day. I can’t necessarily control everything that happens in life, but I can control how I am going to let the mishaps effect me.
We can always change the way we think about something. When we’ve been given an obstacle we may not always be able to find a way around it, we might have to go through the storm but we can weather through it. I believe our struggles and obstacles that we all unfortunately go through in life at one point or another help to shape us, teach us and guide us.
I’m writing this blog in hopes that it reminds others who may be in my same situation that it is okay to not be where you thought you would be. You will get there someday. You will look back at all the times you thought you never would get to “that point” and wonder why you ever doubted it.